ronda rousey with leo frincuHard? How many times have you heard yourself or someone else say, “This is hard”.  I bet you’re smiling right now thinking, geeez… all the time. However, have you ever asked yourself what hard is? Guys, there’s no doubt what the answer is when it comes down to an erection…lol. However, on a serious note, what makes something hard? Why, can something be easy for some people, and the exact thing be harder for others?

I asked this question around and since all the answers sounded almost the same … “well it depends…” that didn’t satisfy me, therefore; I searched my own. All of a sudden, as Archimedes would say, I had an “Eureka” moment… I have found it.

It is as follows…

Nothing is hard. We choose what’s hard and what’s not based on how we want to feel about ourselves at that moment. What we want/need to validate about ourselves plays a big role in labeling a task as being hard. We only classify something to be hard when we are expecting/want it to be easy(er).

When we label something as being easy it’s because we are in control. We are not in control of the situation, but are in total control of ourselves. For example: When you’re taking a test and know all the answers or are very familiar with the topic, it means you are in control of the outcome. This is classified as being easy. When you have doubts about the topic, which equals less control, it becomes challenging, thus you’ll label it as being harder. When you don’t know the subject at all, you’re not in control; therefore you’ll characterize it as being very hard. When you take two people (Bob and Sam) taking the same test and Bob is more prepared than Sam is, you can say that Bob’s in control, which means it’s harder for Sam than it is for Bob.

Now let’s take athleticism for an example. When you say a particular exercise is hard, it means you are not in control of yourself.  This means you’re not happy with the way you/your body reacts to that specific exercise. Your reaction to the exercise decides the difficulty of that exercise and not the exercise itself. #highperformancementality

What makes something hard or easy is your ability to control yourself or lack thereof during that particular task. By labeling a task/goal/exercise as being hard, you’re giving it power over yourself. It controls you vs. you being in control of yourself.  That would be your easy way out ;-)

Bottom line is, when you say, “This is hard”… Nothing is hard, it’s just harder than you expected.

leo frincu photosLeo Frincu came to the United States from Communist Romania with $10, a back pack and four words of English. Now, he’s a businessman, renowned trainer and mentor for UFC women’s bantamweight champion Ronda Rousey. Among his many athletic accomplishments, Leo is a six-time Romanian wrestling champion, four-time European champion and was also trainer and coach for the 2003 U.S. Olympic Wrestling Team. Leo is the author of a new book, “Choosing Freedom,” which details the steps he took to leave the oppressive Romanian society through wrestling and how his experiences have helped him in the United States – going from a bus boy to successful entrepreneur. You can learn more about Leo Frincu on his website Also, follow Leo on Twitter @leofrincu and “LIKE” his page on Facebook.

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