Self-Defense or Self-Offense: Three Tips for Remaining Safe

I made this acronym for A.W.A.R.E. that I use as my mantra… Always Watch And Remain Engaged.

What if self-defense started before you even left the house? There are plenty of conscious decisions you can make that can lower the chances that you will be attacked.

Common sense can be the best line of self-defense. Being aware of your surroundings is key! That means “keeping your eye on the road” so to speak. Focus on what you are doing. Predators look for easy targets. Women who are not paying attention to what they are doing.

Here are 3 things you should stop doing immediately:

1. STOP Texting while walking. It’s crazy how addicting texting can be. I see it all the time and have been guilty of it myself, but I can’t stress enough how important it is to stay focused on your surroundings. If you are focused on texting, you will not be aware if someone is coming up behind you. Your safety is more important than texting your friend about that cute boy you will never get to meet… because you’re dead.

2. STOP Looking through your purse while walking. When you are looking down in your purse, you are focused on that and not on your surroundings, giving the attacker the advantage he needs to catch you off guard. Have your keys in your hand ready to open the door to your car or house. As a side note, if you hold your keys between your fingers pointed out, they can also be used a weapon if need be.

3. STOP Looking down while you walk or as you pass someone on the street. You should look people in the eye as you pass them and walk with your head up and arms swinging naturally at your sides. First, you will look confident. Second, predators don’t want to be identified. So if you are making eye contact with someone who might do you harm, and you are walking with confidence, they will re-think you as a target.


Remember the mantra. A.W.A.R.E. Always Watch And Remain Engaged. When you do, you will lower the chances that you will become a victim, and you will feel more empowered.

helen gordon

Helen Anzalone Gordon
3rd degree black belt
You Can Fight App creator

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