Ask Trigg: Friends with Benefits

‘Ask Trigg’

A Relationship Advice Blog for Women

One of MMA’s most recognized personalities dishes on love and the male psyche in “Ask Trigg – A Dating and Relationship Blog for Women” featured exclusively on ( Every Wednesday the mixed martial arts fighter, color commentator and MMA spokesman will give his advice to female fans based on questions they have submitted. In this entertaining and insightful blog, Trigg will share stories and reflect on love lessons he has learned as he guides readers through the complex world of dating and relationships. 

Frank Trigg has dated over 300 women and was married twice before finding “The One.” He married his high school sweetheart, his college sweetheart and is now happily married to the true love of his life. Trigg has learned many valuable lessons as a result of his relationship experiences and for years has been the “go-to guy” for relationship advice among his friends and peers. Trigg would now like to share his insight with fans and hopes to help the ladies better understand men. Ladies can send their dating and relationship questions to

Topic of the Week: How to Avoid the “Friends with Benefits” Trap

Ladies, “friends with benefits” is just another way for a man to get what he wants without ever having to commit – sex with no strings attached. There are no nice dinners, no roses, no one-on-one time. You may go out with a group of friends now and then, or you may just get calls from him in the middle of the night for a hook up. Some women are okay with this arrangement, but most women agree to it because they think that it just might turn into something more serious…It won’t!

The bottom line is this – It will not evolve into a real relationship. If you think that agreeing to be “friends with benefits” will make him like you more and eventually evolve into a committed relationship, you are sadly mistaken. Once you agree to be “friends with benefits” there is no turning back.

If you feel your man is leaning towards “friends with benefits” and you want a relationship, avoid the scenario from the very beginning. You have to act like you’re better than friends with benefits….don’t answer his phone calls in the middle of the night. Insist on doing things with him outside of group functions or late night hook ups. The more one-on-one time you spend with the guy you’re interested in (outside of the bedroom) the better.

If he is truly interested, he’ll be open to spending the time with you. If not, he just wants to reap the benefits of having sex with you and nothing else. If it’s obvious that he’s only in the relationship for sex and not because he likes you, move on and find someone worthy of your time.

That’s it for this week. Remember ladies, send your questions to